Sunday, August 14, 2016

Turning It Over To God - A Heartfelt Conversation

It seems like we go through life with all kinds of highs and lows, and then there are those moments that are "Real Highs" and "Real Lows".  I'm not talking necessarily about devastation, just things all out of sync.

We are far away from family and friends, so I have always wanted to move back closer.  Recently we started looking, however, price is going to be a real problem.  The area we want to move back to is very expensive.  Prices have totally soared and are almost out of reach.

When we sold our previous home we bought this one in a hurry since we had a short closing date.  I have never liked the far north west side of town.  Now don't get me wrong, it is a very nice area of all new homes, just far away from everything.  It is a 40 minute drive to the nearest Mall area and the same distance to a freeway to get anywhere you want to go.  We do have Walmart, Target, a small Kohl's, Michaels and basic shopping with several grocery stores and drug stores.   It's a 1 1/2 hour drive to see family & friends and some of my friends live over 2 1/2 hours away.  Downtown takes about 1 1/2 hours too.  That doesn't seem like much, but when you are having to fight tons of freeway traffic going about 70 to 80 mph. (yes, they do go that fast), it is very stressful.

 I have struggled with living in this home for a long time.  I spent the first two years not even trying to fix it up.  It is much smaller than my previous homes and definitely builder basic. . Buying this home in this area was a mistake and has been hard to turn into a positive.  I kept thinking we would sell this one and move again, but that didn't happen.  That was about the time the market went crazy and housing prices soared.  Then the crash came and I kept thinking maybe prices would go lower.  Finally I decided I was being a really spoiled brat and I should be grateful for this wonderful home, so I have been determined to make it a place that is "mine" and shows love.  It has turned into a very comfortable home and one that I am proud of.  It just proves that a little tlc can make a house a home without tons of money.

After only a couple of weeks of looking for a home in my preferred area, I find myself anxious and up-tight.  Not at all good things.  We don't have to move, it is just a want and there are no time tables as to when we move.  It could be now or next year or maybe never.

Looking to see what is available has become somewhat disturbing.  I have found myself depressed at what is in our price range and what is available in general.  This was supposed to be a great thing.  To make this move back close to family and friends was supposed to be so exciting.

Last week when I was really, really thinking about all of this, it suddenly dawned on me that I needed to "Turn It Over To God".  If this is meant to be, the right home will become available.  If not, then He has provided a beautiful home for use to live in.  I need to stop struggling with this and looking so hard.  For years I have loved the motto - --"LET GO AND LET GOD".  That is exactly what I need to do.

Sometimes we just need to stop, relax and let God do His thing.  After all, He already knows what's going to happen and He'll guide us in His timing, not mine.

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  1. Our timing isn't worth a hill of beans. It's easy to become anxious and want to hurry events along to our liking.

  2. It is always amazing to me, after the fact, how things turn out! It will certainly all work out for you, just be patient!

  3. I agree with you that things happen when they are supposed to. I really believe that. I also believe in "turning it over to God". I wanted to move out of our old house for 15 years!!!! But Joe had NO desire to move. Then circumstances happened, he started to look, found this place and here we are. I truly do hope though that God will be ready to send you to a new home, closer to friends and family. I wish SOOO much we were closer to our daughter and SIL and Colleen. Have a good Sunday, Marty! XO

  4. Marty,
    I understand some of your frustration, dear friend!
    When "Mr. Ed" and I moved to this side of the Prairie, we rented for nearly a year.
    We faced many of the things of which you speak of here, also.
    When the employment I accepted turn out not to be a good thing,
    some of my Christian friends accused me of not following God's will in my life.
    I hit the bottom hard!!!
    I cried. . .and I'm not a crying person.
    As I got up, I got to my knees. . . and I prayed. . .Lead on O, King Eternal.
    Within two weeks, "Mr. Ed's" job transfer went through, I had a new job
    and we found a better suited rental property. . . and we found our Church Home.
    I believe strongly in the power of prayer, dear friend.
    "Ask and it shall be given unto you, seek and ye shall find."
    God doesn't tell us to sit idle. . .but to ask Him for divine guidance.
    He will make the way for us. Let go of your inhibitions and follow in His ways.
    If I were you. . .I'd start packing!
    Something good is going to happen to you!

  5. It can be difficult to 'let go and let God' when you are so anxious to make a change. But, your attitude now is perfect, and will give you the peace to take your time and find not just any house, but the right house this time. I wish you luck, Marty - buying a new house is fun but also quite stressful, as I remember well from my experience last year. I am glad that's in the past for me, and I hope I can stay in my little house for a good long time!

  6. Marty! I love this post and I feel your anxiety. But when you give it up to God I find the anxiety turns to anticipation. I have two sayings I love:
    "Leap and a net will appear"
    "When nothing goes right... go left."
    xo laura

  7. Marty, life is too short to live away from the family you love and want to be nearer, in an area you would prefer. With that said, I certainly understand the dilemma of finding affordable housing. I wish you all the luck and blessings of finding the right fit for you and your hubby, and if anyone can make this happen, God can and will! I will keep you in my prayers that it happens for you, and soon.

  8. Oh, Marty! I'm so sorry the possibility of this move has left you so stressed. I know exactly what you've been going through. But you are so right to let God take the reins. We think we've given everything over to Him at times but it's so hard not to take the reins back, I'm talking about myself trying to make things happen. One thing about our move, we were going to live in our little condo in Galveston and travel for a year or so and then move to New York. Well, God opened the door for us and we were up in here in no time! I know God will work out His plan for you and I'll remember to pray for you! You know I want the very best for you, sweet friend.
    Shelia ;)

  9. OMG! Marty, I'm in the same situation to the tee. We're in our house 1 year. It's a 55 and over community. It's very nice, has a lot to offer but I'm not happy with the house and I've done no decorating because of this. I say maybe we will move in another year, if we can afford to, I'll give it a chance. My heart is not into it. I want to make it a home so I can feel better. Also, the distance is to far from everybody, my daughter, and family. Looking back at my life I never thought I would ever be in a situation like this. My husband and I are young seniors. We lived on Long Island for over 30 years in our house. (Should of never moved) He wanted to go to Florida. He couldn't take the winters anymore. So we did. It was terrible for me. We stayed 7 years and came back to New Jersey where my daughter lives but we're 1 hour away. Her area was way to high for us so we had to go more south jersey. Anyway, that's my tale of woe. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I think I will turn my stuff up to God too. I hope everything works out for you and I will keep reading your blog to get encouragement. Thanks!

  10. Marty, I am in the same boat, only backwards. My son wants me to love closer to him and granddaughter and I would except - prices are so high there, the most expensive in the USA.
    I would not have any friends there, they are all here in SO CA. Plus I could NEVER afford anything there. I can however find a mobile home about 1 hr away. He is so busy with his job and raising his daughter that I wouldn't see them that much. So it is in God's hands now and what to be will be.

    Hang in there something will happen. So my dear have faith - all good things come to those who wait.


  11. I can relate. We built a home this year after our move to be near our children a year ago. To find afforable housing we had to move farther out and I now fight traffic daily to keep my 18 month on grandchild. It has been a challenge on all levels. The move that I anticipated would be easy has not been so much. I always had a small house that I loved. It was older and compact and I had a place for everything. I guess my problem is the opposite from yours. I prefer decorating small spaces. I have a huge family room now and just don't know what to do with it. I've not gooten my groove since my move. LOL! It will come! It's a new season for us I guess.

  12. I know how frustrating this may be for you...the housing market has certainly been such a roller coaster ride...the only positive is that the interest rates are still pretty low. We want to downsize, but we are waiting for the best case scenario....mainly the location...oh, and price too! So you are doing what is in that you will be in the place in your life that is in God's plan for you.

  13. Marty, life decisions can be so difficult, but you have placed it in the Hands of the One who knows best and what safety and rest is found there! God has a plan and He always knows best! Pam @ Everyday Living

  14. Sometimes we make good decisions from a bad place and sometimes we make bad decisions from a good place. Regardless of which one it falls into, we often have to live with our decisions.

    You should be happy.

    Where you live should make your happy.

    From a practical point of view, perhaps you can look at houses in your preferred area or close to your preferred area that are owned and are available for rent. This often makes transitioning a lot easy.

    He sees.
    He knows.
    He cares.

    Rashon Carraway

  15. not always easy to do.. we like to be in control. But it does take the pressure and stress off. And its in his hands anyways.. what ever will be will be, and I bet you'll be happy and content knowing that it is Gods will.

  16. I'm sorry this is a struggle. I hope the Lord blesses you with the desire of your heart. If not, you have gotten the most important thing covered - His will and contentment. Have a blessed day. I actually really needed to hear this today.

  17. Oh my goodness sweet lady! Just today I was talking to mother about how a couple of years ago we almost moved out of this perfect for us penthouse apartment to another new building where hubby's two brothers live. Much more expensive then ours and to a smaller apartment. I backed up from the idea and hopping the Sils don't get upset. I did blamed hubby not wanting to move, but yes, it took me around six months of so of much procrastinating on my part as hubby was ready to go! I left it to my Lord sweet Jesus, as I always do when I'm not ready for something and he did give me the answer and we both are not sorry we did the move.
    I do feel HE spoke to me and decided for me.
    Yes Marty, you will soon find the perfect home by leaving it to God. He always knows when the perfect time comes !
    I will pray and hope soon enough you find just the right place.

  18. I meant we didn't do the move out of here, lol...

  19. Well, I know this is coming out of nowhere. But maybe a condo or something would be cheaper? I don't know if that is something you would consider. Just trying to figure out something that would maybe put you closer to your loved ones.

  20. Exactly!! We say we trust in God, but that means we trust Him to have His will in our lives. We have to completely give in and let God do what is best for us whether it is what we want or not. He knows best, and if He can create this wondrous world in which we live, He can keep you according to His will. If He wants you to make this move, it will happen, in His way, in His time! Wait on the Lord!!

  21. Marty, your words today really helped me, thank you. We are a small family, I have no siblings, my husband has two sisters, but not close to our area. All four of our parents are gone now and our only son and family moved two states away because her parents needed some help. We love our home and most probably will never move to another, but it's a lonesome life most of the time. I need to take your advice and put my sad heart in God's hands, he will figure it out for us.

  22. Oh my sweet friend I am keeping you in prayer and believe that the perfect home will be revealed in good time. Keep the faith dear one. I am rooting for you!!!

  23. Prayers for your heart in this time of unknown. Thanks for sharing!!

  24. You are exactly right, Marty. I believe God puts us where we need to be when we need to be there, for His purpose. You seem to have a yearning to be nearer your family and friends, so no doubt, He will move you there sometime. When His time is right, it will happen. Blessings to you and thank you for sharing how you've made this home bloom. It truly is lovely!!

  25. Hi Marty
    I appreciated your blog today. It's not easy at times to Let Go and let God.

    I'm reminded of a scripture I felt impressed to share with you, "And we know all things work together for our good to them that love God, to them that are called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28. Praying He works it out!🙏😊


  26. Hi Marty, I am in the same situation, a little different though I am in Fla. about a mile from the everglades , not much around . I am here because my sweet mom passed and left me her home. I sold mine and have been here for 7 I am looking in Monroe County Tn. for my dream farmhouse in the mountains. It seems all the kids are coming back home for various reasons and space is tight. ...Need a big house again I guess and maybe a glass of wine . Some days they drive me crazy Lisa@ Sweet Tea N' Salty Air Lisa@ Sweet Tea N' Salty Air

  27. Marty I can completely understand where you are. I have been there too! 7 years ago we moved back to a neighborhood that we lived in for 5 years. A neighborhood where we made friends that we consider family which was very important to us since all of our friends and family are half way across the country. We only get to see them a handful of times a year if we are lucky. Well the home we chose was a builder basic but we turned it into something amazing! We loved our home but what was missing was our friends. We all lived in different sections of the neighborhood now and we rarely ever saw each other. There were not any kids our boys age by us except for one set that was a bad mix. Such a bad mix that it gave me and our oldest major anxiety. We felt at home inside of our home but once we stepped outside we just were not home. The area had risen in crime and hubby was tired of a 45 minute commute. The schools in the upper grade levels were not all that wonderful either. It was time to go. We searched for almost 4 years for a make us move house. In the meantime we put in a pool and continued to do upgrades to our home. We turned it over to God and told God ok we are listening and we know you will lead us to our new home. Well EVERYTHING fell into place for us. We found a beautiful neighborhood with excellent schools and just 12 minutes from hubby's work. We were able to afford it because we had purchased our home when the market had not recovered. We have gotten everything we had hoped to find and honestly it is just as stressful as feeling not at home. We still feel unsettled because our house is not completed and keeps getting pushed back for who knows why. Our lease is up at the end of Oct and the house is not slated now till sometime in November. I have not been able to blog and earn money that I normally have. I am stressed and not sleeping. I feel like a brat and guilty at times because God lead us to this point and now I just have to sit back and just let things be. It is so hard!! I h ate not having a home for my family. For me that is my job to make our house a home and without a house I feel like I am not doing my job. Anyways, I send prayers and hugs your way!

  28. Marty, we all feel your pain. Years ago, I learned it is important to 'put it out there' for help. Tell us where you want to go and you never know-maybe someone wants to relocate or there is an estate sale.

  29. I am so sorry you are dealing with this stress and strain, sweet Marty. I believe that Go will show you the way. That's how it happened for us. You might remember that we moved here 10 years ago to be near my parents. I didn't like the house we bought, but it was perfect for my parents if they chose to live with us. I didn't decorate it until 5 years in. I grew to like that house, then my mom died. My dad decided to stay put so we finally had our chance to downsize and move closer to my daughter. It has been the best move, definitely God planned. I know it's hard, but "wait on the Lord". Good luck.

  30. I have been such a blogging-slacker and didn't realize you were dealing with this kind of stress, Marty. Moving and transitioning to a new area, even one you had been familiar with at a prior time, is so very stressful. We did this same thing 5 years ago. Fortunately, we moved from a less desirable place to a much better one. Our children and grandchildren were all within a 40 min. drive, but that only lasted about two years....then the "scattering" started happening. We had not moved solely for the reason of being closer to family, but it was a very nice perk. While we sold high, bought low, and have never regretted that move, it was one of the most stressful periods in our lives...well, until last year! I don't know if you are looking to move within AZ or to another state, but I wish you all the best.

    Warm hugs,

  31. So good of you to share that. I will pray for you. God moves on His time not ours because (I truly believe) He knows what is best for us. In every situation is a lesson to learn and get strength and wisdom from. . Bless you Marty for sharing these beautiful creations. I appreciate the personal glimpse and the creative ideas so much!